I recently spent some time with someone with a lingering relationship and ex. None of which I was okay with because I find all of that to be tricky. Every one of my exes has indeed been an ex. I don't see the need to continue to engage in behavior with someone who no longer has that title or role. But I guess some people can't let people "go."
Recently LeBron James decided to leave South Beach and the Miami Heat and return home to Cleveland, Ohio. In his Sports Illustrated exclusive Lebron discussed what prompted his decision.
"When I left Cleveland, I was on a mission. I was seeking championships, and we won two. But Miami already knew that feeling. Our city hasn't had that feeling in a long, long, long time. My goal is still to win as many titles as possible, no question. But what's most important for me is bringing one trophy back to Northeast Ohio. I always believed that I'd return to Cleveland and finish my career there. I just didn't know when...I started thinking about what it would be like to raise my family in my hometown. I looked at other teams, but I wasn't going to leave Miami for anywhere except Cleveland. The more time passed, the more it felt right. This is what makes me happy."
Now while the story behind the decision is sweet and inspiring the decision left me with the same feeling I have when someone gets back with someone they claimed to be done with.
"Show me a recent ex still calling/texting and I'll show you a tricky situation."
Despite all that Cleveland means to Lebron the nature in which he left 4 years ago was far from ideal. I've never been one to "double back" and feel strongly against it.
I had to consult with some of my girlfriends. We talk about any and everything and I was curious to get their take on "going home."
P said, "I wanted something more for myself. New scenery. I wasn't using the past as a tool, just as an explanation/excuse. I wasn't learning or growing. I was leaning back and standing still."
L's take was the following. "I have found that in revisiting old flames, the same old heat is what brings me back but it is short lived and it doesn't take long to remind me of why things didn't work out. There's this hope that maybe things will work out now because time has gone by, but so far the people haven't changed, just the days."
Whatever your preference may be, be aware. Sometimes the ends don't justify the means but a second chance doesn't always mean a new ending.
Home isn't always where the heart needs to be.